No more good girl: masturbation as empowerment

No more good girl: masturbation as empowerment

We’re back! Rachel and I had a rare reunion in Portland and we couldn’t wait to sink our teeth into juicy conversation. We often wonder why we’re not recording 24/7 Truman Show style. So much abounds from conversation with each other and we always have a blast together. We are perfect mirrors of each other and reflect to one another what the other needs to hear and learn. (more…)

Sex positive world: pornography vs. erotica

Sex positive world: pornography vs. erotica

“I gathered poets around me and we all wrote beautiful erotica. As we were condemned to focus only on sensuality, we had violent explosions of poetry. Writing erotica became a road to sainthood rather than to debauchery.”
Anaïs Nin, Delta of Venus

No matter how you slice it, sex is hard to talk about and pornography is a major divider in cultural discourse. For a moment, open your mind and listen to our latest podcast as we discuss how we’ve used porn and erotica in our own lives – for better or worse. Porn, in and of itself, has no meaning until you ascribe it meaning. Therefore it can have both a shadow and light side. We also talk about what we’ve learned from society about porn, sex, religion, erotica, and the relationships between all of these phenomena. Listen here: (more…)

How I came…to appreciate men

How I came…to appreciate men

I thought I’d be a bit cheeky and playful since I’ve noticed I’ve been a bit serious lately. It has been brought to my attention through literature, conversation, and introspection that sexuality is fun, after all. It’s sacred; a great force and teacher but let’s not forget the pleasure and connection derived from it. I’ve been redefining what sex means to me and I’ve had profound insights about it. (more…)

Acceptance is a three letter word

Acceptance is a three letter word

It’s inevitable.  There comes a point when you reach some tender moments in a relationship and you ask yourself “can I accept this?”

It may be something readily resolvable – accepting each other’s eating habits or hobbies.

It may be something that strikes you at your core – navigating differing sexual preferences, for example. (more…)