No more good girl: masturbation as empowerment

No more good girl: masturbation as empowerment

We’re back! Rachel and I had a rare reunion in Portland and we couldn’t wait to sink our teeth into juicy conversation. We often wonder why we’re not recording 24/7 Truman Show style. So much abounds from conversation with each other and we always have a blast together. We are perfect mirrors of each other and reflect to one another what the other needs to hear and learn. (more…)

To hair or not to hair?

To hair or not to hair?

What an eventful week! Today’s article is a playful conversation between Rachel and I. It’s about hair – love it or hate it. We talk about it all and most people have an opinion. We actually recorded it months ago but last night inspired me to release it today.  (more…)

Sex positive world: pornography vs. erotica

Sex positive world: pornography vs. erotica

“I gathered poets around me and we all wrote beautiful erotica. As we were condemned to focus only on sensuality, we had violent explosions of poetry. Writing erotica became a road to sainthood rather than to debauchery.”
Anaïs Nin, Delta of Venus

No matter how you slice it, sex is hard to talk about and pornography is a major divider in cultural discourse. For a moment, open your mind and listen to our latest podcast as we discuss how we’ve used porn and erotica in our own lives – for better or worse. Porn, in and of itself, has no meaning until you ascribe it meaning. Therefore it can have both a shadow and light side. We also talk about what we’ve learned from society about porn, sex, religion, erotica, and the relationships between all of these phenomena. Listen here: (more…)

Podcast: Come out and reveal who you are

Podcast: Come out and reveal who you are

Last week at my StoryMasters meeting, the fierce Brenda Bryan gave an amazing speech on “Coming Out”. The first question she asked the audience was “who here has come out?” Of course, no one raised their hand because it was a terrifying and intimate question. That’s what she expected, though. As her speech unfolded, she elegantly and humorously persuaded us through storytelling that everyone has a “coming out” story and it’s not relegated to those of a particular orientation or lifestyle.

“Coming out” stories are ones that reveal a secret about you; something that you are afraid to tell people about an aspect of you. You may be afraid to be judged, rejected for who you truly are, or you’re terrified of change.  “Coming out” will affect your relationships and the way you are viewed by others. “Coming out” not only challenges your beliefs about you but also the beliefs that others hold about themselves. That’s what is the most terrifying to people when they hear someone else’s “coming out” story. Subconsciously (or consciously) we begin to ask ourselves “where in my life am I unhappy, stagnant, or betraying myself?” (more…)

Boob jobs and the pressure to be hot

Boob jobs and the pressure to be hot

Oh boy! I’m pumped to share our latest podcast episode with our special guest, Dr. Joylin Namie (listen below or go to Soundcloud).  Joylin is a vibrant, hilarious, athletic, non-conformist, and candid woman. As a secular woman, she experienced the Mormon culture first hand as a former professor in Utah (she now resides in Oregon).  She was formerly Associate Professor of Anthropology in the Behavioral Science Department at Utah Valley University. She is the director of Drinking Gold, a documentary film exploring the confluence of plastic surgery, religion, and popular culture among Mormon women in Utah.  Her article on the topic garnered the award for Best Paper in the Social Science division of the Utah Academy of Sciences, Arts & Letters for 2013.  It was an honor to interview her.

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