Permission to Pamper: A LOVE You More Project

Permission to Pamper: A LOVE You More Project

I have been asked to be part of a campaign covering my favorite topic: loving yourself. My friend, Selena Moffitt, runs the Love YOU More Project and it is a much needed cause to wake us up to who we are. We are powerful, magnificent, change-making, divinely human beings.

We are not broken. We are buried.

I’m honored to have been asked to participate in a week long campaign giving permission – to whoever dares to listen – to live and lead life from pleasure and joy. That’s my topic and I join other bold change-makers in hitting you up with short, sweet, and sassy tips to help you to LOVE yourself more. (more…)

Trust yourself and stop bargaining

Trust yourself and stop bargaining

I’m in the process of making a choice regarding my living situation and I’m a little scared. What I fear is making the “wrong” choice. I fear attracting the wrong situation and person into my life. Really what I fear the most is feeling hurt (well that, and stressed).  

With every person you allow into your sphere, you are risking loss and love. In the Buddhist tradition, suffering comes from attachment and avoidance: to love and of pain, respectively. Boy, ain’t that the truth. Think about when you close down and put up a wall, could it be fear of trusting and letting someone in? (more…)

The pain of great love, great loss, and goodbye

The pain of great love, great loss, and goodbye

I’ve had several gifts bestowed onto me lately. One was the gift of goodbye. I didn’t know how valuable this gift was until I received it. I hadn’t seen or spoken to my former partner for 3 months and a few nights ago we found ourselves face to face. It was somewhat unexpected, although anticipated with fear and anxiety. I had visualized our encounter over and over in my mind in a myriad of ways: from us hugging lovingly to him ignoring me completely. My visualizations steered toward the loving encounter. At least, that is what I wished. When I saw him, I definitely panicked a little but held it together. At some point in the evening, I approached him (with his permission) and spoke to him what was in my heart. I asked him a bunch of questions and he cordially answered but it was clear to me that he did not want any kind of relationship with me. He stated as much. (more…)

Healing from loss

Healing from loss

“Get over it”. How many times have you heard that? “Buck up” or “have thicker skin”. “It’s been (insert time period) days/weeks/months/years, why are you still (insert feeling)?” I’ve said these words to myself (and others). I sometimes hear myself saying the word “still” and in one conversation, my good friend pointed out to me that I was judging her process as if she is allowed a certain amount of time to grieve and then it’s time to move on or detach. I’m impatient and dislike pain and discomfort. Shocking. I want to stop feeling sadness, hatred, and regret right now. I want to forgive myself and my ex-boyfriends: all of them, dating back to the beginning of time. I’ll have a good day or week and then BAM – back to crying, being flooded by memories, and wanting more than anything to escape into someone else’s arms. Happy feelings only please! (more…)